Tuesday 9 August 2016

GRANDFATHERS: NEW YORK AND CLOSER TO HOME: FLORIDA

Jeffrey Jacobs and Kian & Alex Van Buren, his first grandchildren! He started off with two

With the first post, I promised you an update on my story about the New York Grandpa Joseph Cotton [you can access his story by clicking on this link] with another story, this time closer at home.

Here is Jeffrey story with his two boys Kian & Alex Van Buren. When I received Jeff's story, I phoned my friend and asked him: "Where is your ice-scream?" I know my friend, he will not miss out on an ice-scream. True to character, he replied: "I have probably finished mine when the photo was taken." I can verily believe that.

I can do no better to tell his story but by quoting him in full:'

"In this day and age, it seems that young married couples wait, making sure they are secure in their ways of homes and work.

My daughter and husband both have high pressure jobs. As time passed we wandered will we have grandchildren. It is a family tradition to gather as a family at one of the family homes for a Sunday meal or birthday celebration. Before thanks giving this particular Sunday my son in law went to his mother, announcing “I want you to know that there is a little boy coming for you”. In the same breath he came to my wife stating; “There is also a little boy for you as well”.

What jubilation form all sitting waiting for food. Tears in the eyes of future grannies; TWINS!

Yes, the expectation and excitement was great. That prayer thanking God for the food turned into a prayer of praise and thanksgiving for God’s gift of two new lives.

Each week and month was eagerly looked forward to. Each doctor’s visit was an announcement that the small foetuses were growing. The wonder of seeing a scan of our future grandsons. As the mother’s body changed shape we knew that there were lives inside a future mother. Grandparents thinking who will the children look like?

With the changing shape of her body shopping experiences became a challenge having to put up with comments from on lookers. Each outing had its own story to tell. The last story that I remember was the shop manager taking my daughter to the front of the que to make sure that she never gave birth in the shop.

Saturday morning 24 March 2012 just before my daughter went into theatre we committed her and the nursing staff to Gods care and grace. Minutes later a phone call came from theatre stating that they were about to start. Minutes passed when over the phone the message came: the first baby is fine and then within moments the second baby is in good health.

As a grandparent going into the nursery was a going back in time remembering when my son and daughter were born. Taking photos was a great pleasure, seeing the perfect small fingers and toes. I remember going to the smaller of the two first who seemed so weak and frail, looking down at this small frame I gave a prayer of thanks, and asked God to keep His hand on him. Then walking over to the first born (2 minutes’ difference between them) I thanked God for him as well praying a special prayer that they would both be strong and health knowing Gods hand of blessing upon them as Jacob of old blessed his sons.  This was a special prayer for these two lives knowing that we do not have tomorrow in our hands as we experienced more than 25 years ago when our 3-month baby was taken.

Feeding them at the age of 4 weeks was a joy and privilege, this experience was to carry on for a number of years.

As time passed the boys grew in body and mind. The early mornings while granny slept Pa-Pa (as I would be called) read to them stories from the book they chose - the favourite been a book of all the animals that went into Noah’s Ark. To make the story more interesting for the boys I expressed the noise the animals made. Little did I know that Kian would put fear into his brother and friends by roaring like a Lion and all the children around him including his brother would run away crying saying that they were scared of the Lion that they heard.

The time of them riding on the small plastic motor scooters, using trucks in the sand, playing ball on the grass and the occasional wrestling on the carpet, with Pa-Pa being jumped all over, I saw these times as a training period for the future.

The closeness of brothers came out when a muffin was left on the coffee table and one of the boys found it. He broke it in half and shared with his brother. Also when the one was reprimanded by granny his brother ran and grabbed granny by the leg endeavouring to pull granny away from his brother.

When Ice creams were had two were taken one for the brother.

How quick those first years flew by.

The day came when the boys were of age to go to nursery school. Water ice creams kept in the deep freeze were the first port of call when the boys got home, after which an apple, banana or yogurt were consumed.  From a young age the boys knew where granny kept their specialities.

New experiences awaited Granny and Pa-Pa. We got a phone call from an irate father at supper time, when he asked his son over the phone: “Why don't you eat your supper”. An honest answer from a little boy: “I ate at Granny’s”

The swings followed by the Jungle Jim, the fruit trees were all ways a challenge. The sprinklers were a must, with two very wet boys running shouting “Granny we wet.” Imaginations runs wild with a piece of grass been a shark, octopus or where ever their imaginations took them. They themselves tell us they are a Wildebeest running like one or like Spider man - shouting “WEBS”; this meant you had to stand still because the Spider web has entangled you.

Birthdays being a special day for the boys and parents alike. Photos been a plentiful showing all stages of growing years, these I am able to savour at my leisure when all alone in my thoughts.  What they learn at home comes out in the open - in church after the pastor says amen; they in unison will both shout out loud “AMEN.”

Hurts are attended to by granny. Should she not be there Pa-Pa will kiss that dirty toe, removing all tears.

Seeing them run in the garden I see a young version of father and mother strong in body and mind. Teachings made will be their foundation for the morrow. What the morrow will bring we don't know, but we do know is that teachings at this young age will stand them in good stead for the years to come.

My prayer goes out to God our Lord Jesus that they will both walk in his image."

Alex & Kian Van Buren working in grandpa's yard

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